#SaveOurDaughters

I have followed different write-ups on women suffering from abusive marriages

I have also read several articles on how our boys need to be taught to be gentlemen

I agree totally and sadly too, that there is an alarming dearth of male role models/ mentors for our boys to help them grow into responsible adults

Having said all the above, I strongly believe that regardless of how well our boys are groomed, without our girls having an inward realisation of how precious they are, there is a likelihood that they will always be trampled on.

Our girls are endangered and I must say it is not only because of the threats posed by the male specie, our daughters are also bullied daily by girls like them.

It has been said that ignorance of value or use of a thing leads to abuse.

Young girls gravitate to hard drugs to make them bolder to confront challenges their ‘young minds’ are not equipped to handle.

Why would a 14 year old be doing drugs?

I see teenagers intimidated into sexual atrocities because they want to “belong”.

Many young girls are giving up their virginity and having multiple sex partners because they are confused and feel like that’s what will make them ‘happening babes’

Since they do not receive praises from parents except if the grades are good, teenagers now look to guys for validation, they are also ready to do anything for a smile..

I’ve sat to dwell on all these and came to the conclusion that until our girls are made to understand who they are, they will always succumb to vices, people and situations that will dent their God given destinies.

Birds will always fly over their heads ….but have we trained them not to allow the birds build a nest on their heads?

Many of them are being coerced, intimidated or cajoled into ways of life that make them deviate from who they were made to be.

I have been bullied in life, looked down on and trampled more ways than one on as a teenager/youth…

I took all lying down (and I mean that literally)

Trust me, it was easy because I just didn’t know how to do otherwise… I wasn’t TRAINED to act differently

Our young girls do not have a life….it’s all being lived for them by negative peer pressure, bullies, hard drugs, sex partners and more…..

Everywhere our girls turn, it is drummed into their ears that if they do not act right they’ll never get any guy to marry, if she’s overweight no man will marry her…

In the course of counselling, I listen to women recount the issues they have in marriage and I can’t but wonder how they got to that point….

How does a woman get to the point of marrying a guy who showed tendency to be violent right from when they were dating?

How does a woman live with herself knowing that her husband is sleeping with THEIR daughter, and she turns a blind eye.. because she cannot pick the bills?

How does a woman go through a life of insults in a relationship. ..oh Yeh, he doesn’t hit her physical. .. but he torments her mind in every way ‘unimaginable’ .

Why would anyone marry a man who acts like he is doing her a favour?

I ruminate over all these and I say boldly that this is a foundational issue.

What do I mean by this? There must be something fundamentally faulty with such women.

Sadly, I look around and see that the same problem is gradually being transferred to the youths and girls of the millennial generation

We are unconsciously conditioning the minds of our daughters to believe the same treatment is fine.

Our young girls must be educated to love who they are regardless of the negative vibes they get.

Let’s emphasise values that will help our girls stand tall in life.

I ask that you invite Teenage Girls and Youths in your areas of influence to a Seminar themed: CLASS OR CRASS? It will hold at 9am on Saturday, 29th July 2017

Let them join Temilolu Okeowo,  Lola Tewe, Dokun Adedeji and I at this interactive meeting that promises to be explosive and revealing as our speakers share very deep truths on sex, chastity, Peer pressure, Self esteem, Drugs, Bullying and more. Admission is free