It was tough for me to counsel Bosun, a young lawyer widowed at the age of 36. Now 39 years old and it was obvious her life ended when her husband died in a ghastly motor accident. She confided in me that the only reason she gets up each morning is because of her 6 year old daughter.
“God knows best”, I stuttered as I looked for the right words to console Bosun.
“Hmm”, she sighed. “I have heard those words countless times and I wonder why I don’t feel better” she mused…obviously locked in her grief.
I went on quoting suitable scriptures and at the end of it, Bosun concluded the meeting with a simple sentence.. “Pastor Bisi, ko le ye yin” (Pastor Bisi, you can’t understand)
Those words TAUNTED and HAUNTED me for days because all I could see was the wistful look on Bosun’s lovely face as I ‘tried’ to counsel her.
Yes Bisi, you can’t understand the loss.
Yes Bisi, you can’t understand the loneliness.
Yes Bisi, you can’t understand the alienation… can’t fit into some circles anymore.
Yes Bisi, you can’t understand the shattered dreams.
Yes Bisi, what about the financial burden… you can’t understand.
The list is just so endless… we all don’t get it…
Yes, sympathy and speaking ‘Christianese’ is just not enough when counselling some people because they need people who have walked in their shoes to empathise with them.
Please pause and look around you, there are many hurting Gals (ladies) out there who feel ‘you can’t understand’.
They will feel better if they can just connect with someone who has triumphed in the area they are presently challenged.
My practical style of teaching seemed to have failed as I couldn’t talk so much on these issues…
Since I am one who believes in the Emphasising Individual Responsibility, I asked ‘Moi’, what can I do to assuage the hurt?
G.A.L.
Get A Life!
GAL is about helping the hurting gals get their lives back by listening to others who are going through same or have gone through….
It is a Bare It All Interactive meeting that will restore hope.
It’s a Meeting for all hurting Gals ( Women/ Ladies) irrespective of religious belief.
So, do you know any MATURE SINGLE lady who is just existing because she is ‘waiting’ for a husband?
Are you a VICTIM of RAPE and society makes you wear the stigma like it’s your fault?
Are there WIDOWS out there who are as ‘dead’ as the dead husband and just don’t want to live again?
Do you have ladies in your life who have been torn by a FAILED MARRIAGE and don’t know how to get their lives back?
Do you have a BUSINESS PASSION/IDEA that just doesn’t make sense because people say it’s not doable?
You must be a part of this Life Giving Meeting as you get to listen to speakers who ‘UNDERSTAND’ because they have walked the path.
Stay tuned for details. ..
